Beauty in the Hard

I recently saw some good friends of ours from earlier in our marriage divorced. Ugh, my heart ached. They were both chasing huge career dreams to be successful in different ways and they both reached those career goals. They both were driven, big dreamers and raising families. My heart aches.
The world tells us chase your dreams, shoot for the stars, success success success.
Though I don’t know the circumstances, I do know both of those fields they are in take great sacrifice, great devotion and great commitment. I also know that’s what marriage takes, failing and getting back up over and over.

Friends this is an inward reminder to me and from me to check yourselves. If you are married, make sure you are devoting the same sacrifice, commitment, and honor to your marriage as what you’re devoting yourself to. I say this humbly, because it’s so easy to put your success into your kids, their achievements, your career, your fitness, your friendships, etc. But I wonder if sometimes we completely neglect the most important things, while reaching for the things that serve us temporarily. The jobs will fade, the bodies will grow old and lose their beauty, the homes will age and they will look out of style, but when we are taking our last breaths, it will be those we love that we will want to be around, those that walked with us through it all.

As we enter a new year, walk away from things that are hurting your marriage, take a stand, treat your marriage as the ultimate job or the achievement that you so often seek. Treat it as the body that you want to stay fit and strong, have a marriage meeting and talk to your spouse about how you can prioritize your marriage the way that you prioritize so many other things.

Friend if you are reading this, I hope it doesn’t come off as judgy or mean. I am guilty, in so many ways of putting and doing so many things before my marriage. But I wanted to share my heart because well it feels like if I can write this down and make it a priority even if it just helps me it would be worth it.

Be blessed my friends